The new year will be here in a few days. You know what that means?
YES! Everyone will be making superficial resolutions that they will only put thought in for the first few months of the year. Also, the eye-rolling, “I’m leaving (fill in the blank) in (fill in the outgoing year)!”…Like it’s that easy.
I really wish I could leave my bills in 2020. That wouldn’t workout well though….
“This is my year!”. I remember saying that at the beginning of 2020.
2020 was supposed to be the year that I put all of my kids in school, and I would be home alone.
But COVID-19 happened….
I stopped making these resolutions awhile ago. It has something to do with that expectation factor. I don’t like that….
For three years in a row, I put myself on a weight-loss challenge. By April of each year, I found myself saying “It is what it is.”….
(Unhealthy)Carbs for the win!
Instead, I self-reflect quite often. I like to examine the good situations and the bad situations… How can I build on this? How can I do better next time?
As I have said before, you can’t make inroads if you don’t take responsibility for the good AND the bad situations in your life.
You don’t have to claim every situation that pertains to you(takes notes). When you respond to drama and negativity, you are inserting yourself in that bad situation. You are causing your own problem.
I previously talked about self-reflection as a parent. To me, this is an extremely important step to working WITH your child(ren) towards a healthy relationship. However, you can’t just be willing to enjoy the fun times of parenting. You have to be able to parent when things get rough. Don’t be hard on yourself up for not getting it right. Be hard on yourself for not trying to do better. I’m working on it and praying for it everyday.
I have also talked about self-reflection as a spouse or partner. All relationships take TIME and WORK to evolve. I wish that I could say that you get back what you put it, but that is not always true. ALL parties involved in a relationship have to be willing to work together. However, you may outgrow your partner and your relationship, and that is okay. Don’t waste your time trying to pull someone up when they are not ready because you will be dragged right back down with them.
It’s important to be happy! It’s vital for good mental health. It’s okay to be free. It’s okay to protect your energy.
Anyway, let me stop before I get too preachy.
For the New Year, I just thank God for life. Without life, I wouldn’t have my little(or big) family. I also thank God for a strong and healthy marriage. My husband and I weathered many storms throughout 2020. We have definitely been blessed and will continue to be blessed.
2020 may be over, but COVID-19 is still very real. It especially becomes real when you know someone who has battled it. Please be considerate of others. Please continue to pray for those who are going into this New Year with uncertainty. God Bless us all!
Happy New Year!
I also want to shout out the many people that I have met this year because of my small business. Thank you so much for supporting my new venture. Thank you for advice, assistance, and donations! My website is always open to you:
Stay tuned for something NEW for the New Year! My girls are super excited about this✨