This is very important! Don’t sacrifice your well-being or mental health for anyone. I don’t care who they are. Negativity is very contagious, and it is designed to destroy your life.
It’s okay to forgive someone, but you don’t have to interact with that person again. Don’t be a fool in someone else’s game. There are people who will take advantage of your kindness and use it as a weakness. There are people who will continue to practice hurtful behaviors towards you because you are forgiving. There is nothing wrong with forgiveness because it brings peace. However, if you allow this person to keep taking up space in your life, you will continue to get hurt.
Speaking of peace, don’t be someone else’s puppet. If you feel wronged by someone, don’t allow the negative words or actions to live rent-free in your mind. Be angry, but don’t let that anger cloud your judgement. Be sad, but don’t let that sadness keep you up at night. Think about it, but don’t let your thoughts convince you that you are to blame for someone else’s behavior. Don’t let someone else’s negativity take away your peace and control you.
Take responsibility. This is a big one. Just like others can exude negative energy, you can also. Take responsibility for your actions. Taking responsibility when you are at fault will trigger growth and maturity. It’s easy to constantly live in victim hood because it protects us from having to see ourselves.
Every action doesn’t require a reaction. You don’t have to stoop to a lower level to get even. The one thing that a bully hates is a strong-willed person. Bullies hate when they can’t control your emotions.
Adversity is apart of life. You don’t have to be defeated by adverse circumstances. I know this sounds cliche, but “Trouble don’t last always”. How you handle adversity with determine how you get through it. It’s all about your attitude.
Take a break from social media. You don’t always have to be on an app. There is so much toxicity on all of those platforms. A lot of people use social media to play a character. It’s an outlet that allows them to be as disgusting as they want without consequences. Stop taking memes to heart. You know the memes that I’m talking about. I’m talking about the memes that start off with “Only real men…”, “Only real women…”, “A real wife…”, or even “A real mother…”. Those memes don’t dictate who you are or if you are doing life correctly. People who incessantly post or repost those types of memes are insecure. They are looking to validate themselves. You live your life by your own standards.
Everyone who seems nice doesn’t need to be in your life. Sometimes that means distancing yourself from friends. Everyone who is your family doesn’t need to be in your life. Sometimes that means loving from afar. We seem to take on the most relationships when we are vulnerable. This is also when we tend to give out the most ammunition against ourselves. Trust your God-given instinct whenever it speaks to you. You don’t have to be mean, but you need to protect your energy by keeping certain people at length. Have you ever struck up a great conversation with someone, but the next time you saw that person, they acted like they didn’t know who you are? Have you ever met someone who always had a stank attitude with you for no reason? Don’t try to be a psychologist. Move on, and protect your energy.
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